Widow’s Journey: Pictures

Rose, one of the blog’s readers, mentioned having a family picture taken on Easter Sunday and how incomplete it felt without her husband in it. It made me think of the picture my family took Sunday and no Chuck.

This issue of pictures is a tricky one. Should you put pictures of your husband around the house to remember him, to keep him in the forefront of your mind? Or should you not because they remind you too much of his absence?

Of course there is no answer to those questions. It’s whatever makes an individual widow feel most comforted and comfortable.

I think of the picture we took on Chuck’s last Father’s Day. He was failing rapidly, and everyone loved on him all day. When we gathered for the picture, we all knew it would be our last family photo with him at its center.

I don’t have that picture on display. It makes me sad to see how ill he looks. Instead I have one taken a couple of years earlier. I don’t remember whether he was ill yet, but he looks well, healthy, hearty. I have that photo on my dresser facing the bed. I like looking at him as he was before his illness, as I choose to remember him.

Of course I’d rather have him than any picture, however good.


Strengthen the feeble hands,

steady the knees that give way;

say to those with fearful hearts,

“Be strong and do not fear;

your God will come.”

Isaiah 35:3


O Lord Almighty,

Blessed is the woman who trusts in you.

Psalm 84:12





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